you know that strange phenomenon that occurs when there’s a ton of shit flying about and you’re caught in the middle?
shit storm, right thats the term. i am in the middle of a shit storm.
not that my life is terrible per se. actually, life is great! i have so much to be thankful for. always. but life has this weird way of being great and shitty all at the same time, and sometimes, i just need a friend to be with, talk it out and sort through the crap together.
but friendships can be tricky. and flaky. *okay yeah i’ll admit it, I’m a flaky friend sometimes.*
some friendships are draining. others are life-giving. some are short-lived, and others last a lifetime.
friendships come so easy these days, with the convenience and instantaneous gratification of text messaging and social media. PSA: creeping on FB does not make a friendship.
but if you chat on the phone with a friend, then you’re really good friends.
if you meet up face to face, one on one, just to chill — that’s levelling up, baby!
i was listening to tim kellers podcast on friendship. its so good. give it a listen. anyways, he quotes C.S. Lewis:
“Friendship is born at that moment when one man says to another: “What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .””
― C.S. Lewis
this one girl who is super into chatime (bubble tea, or BOBA, as the californians say) told me: “actually, i’ve gone to chatime with all my really good friends.” (i received my invite a few days later, but we haven’t actually gone yet, so I’m in limbo. lol.)
what I’m trying to say is: friends do life together. we share common interests, face adversities, and laugh helplessly together.
and guys. i can’t do a post about friendship without referencing F.R.I.E.N.D.S. those guys did life together. (yes i know it was just a tv show but don’t ever say that to my face.) F.R.I.E.N.D.S. got real too.
when you’ve found a good friend, a best friend, a lifer — you’ve got a gift right there. good friends, true friends, are a gift from God. they are life-giving, refreshing, and just the best.
i have this one friend that i love to bits. we are polar opposites.
“Friendship requires that rare mean betwixt likeness and unlikeness…”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
i am constantly connected to the interwebs/social media, she doesn’t have FB. or twitter. or instagram. *gasp*
i couldn’t wait to get my kids into school. she homeschools her two daughters.
she has fabulous, curly locks. i have stick straight hair.
im a spender. she’s a thrifter.
i binge watch tv. she has no idea who peter capaldi is. in fact, she doesn’t get any of my pop culture references. ^_^
i live with my head in the clouds. she…okay she’s up there with me. haha.
water and oil, baby.
but i love. her. to. bits. i admire her strength, her patience, but above all, her love for Jesus and obedience to Him always gets me. she is so childlike in her faith, but also so wise and full of understanding. she is a force of nature.
extra bonus: she is a blast to be with.
we will sit and laugh and laugh until we’ve completely forgotten what we were laughing about in the first place.
or we’d both hear the same word wrong and get the giggles.
we’d bring the same healthy snack to the beach – but we’d both sneak in some dark chocolate.
we’ve cried together, prayed together, and our friendship survived a year of long distance friendship. (remember, this girl doesn’t do social media. long distance phone calls = true friendship.)
there’s no feeling quite like talking to someone and thinking: “this person gets me.”
so, I’m totally looking forward to seeing her this thursday. cos its her birthday! and we have so much to talk about. i was racking my brains trying to figure out what to gift her, cos I’m crap with gifts, but then in a burst of inspiration, i got it. what better gift to give my granola friend than granola!
so i made her a mason jar of pear, apricot and vanilla granola.
it’s thrifty, tasty, totally organic, and stores well, just like her. 😀
the irony of this post is that she’ll never read it cos she’s not online.
but i don’t care. i still love you lavone! xx
ps: see, just celebrating lavone made me so happy I’ve already forgotten all the junk in my life that started this post. and cleaned up my language. see what a good influence she is. and even though the granola didn’t turn out quite like how i wanted it too (didn’t get the big chunks that i wanted), i know she’ll eat it cos she doesn’t like things too sweet and she doesn’t waste food. one time, we made awful homemade nutella that tasted like burnt dust and she enjoyed her jar while i threw mine out. true story. reason #37651 why i love lavone.
pps: other amazing friends, I’ve not forgotten you, but it’s not your birthday yet. 😀
pear, apricot, and vanilla granola
7 cups, or 2 large mason jars
- 3 cups old-fashioned organic rolled oats
- 1/2 cup unsweetened shredded or flaked coconut
- 1 cup pecans, coarsely chopped
- 1/4 cup flax seeds
- 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil
- 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
- 1/2 cup (or increase to a cup if a sweeter granola is preferred) maple syrup
- 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
- 1 teaspoon vanilla paste
- 1 large egg white
- 1 1/2 cups dried pears and apricots, ratio to your liking, diced
preheat your oven to 300 degrees. combine all ingredients but the egg white and dried fruit in a large bowl, tossing to coat evenly. whisk the egg white in a small bowl until frothy. stir into the granola mixture, distributing it throughout. spread it in a single layer on a parchment-lined baking sheet.
bake for 45 to 50 minutes. about halfway through the baking time, use a large spatula to turn over sections of the granola carefully, breaking them up as little as possible. rotate the pan if granola is baking unevenly. when it is evenly browned and feels dry to the touch, transfer the pan from the oven to the cooling rack. cool completely. once it’s completely cool, break up granola into whatever size clusters delight you. sprinkle in dried fruit.
the granola keeps at room temperature in an airtight container for 2 weeks. it keeps even longer in the freezer, if you’re the stockpiling type.
adapted from the smitten kitchen’s big cluster maple granola. i found one egg white didn’t quite produce the chunks i wanted, next time i’ll try 2 egg whites.